To many first-time viewers and critics, Outlander is often reduced to simply “that historical sex show.” Even a decade after its debut on Starz, the series continues to captivate new fans on Netflix, where they’re quickly introduced to its bold portrayal of sexuality, sparking both admiration and controversy. Yet, the series’ profound understanding of sex’s role in pleasure, power, and historical progression has always been integral, with its passionate love stories being a major appeal for its dedicated audience. Indeed, sex and romance have proven effective in making history engaging, and Outlander excels in this regard.

Thus, it’s somewhat unexpected that the standout elements from the first season of the prequel, Outlander: Blood Of My Blood, weren’t just the two compelling love stories or the return of its signature steamy scenes, which have become less frequent in the original series as it has progressed. Instead, some of the most memorable moments were not charged with eroticism at all. They stemmed from the platonic relationships central to the backstory of Claire (Caitriona Balfe) and Jamie (Sam Heughan)’s parents’ courtship.

The term “platonic” might seem out of place in a series known for its sensuality. But considering the setting of the prequel—Scotland in 1714—Outlander smartly acknowledges that love isn’t the only force capable of enduring hardships. The security offered by friendships, the strength of alliances, and the enduring nature of brotherhood are equally crucial for survival in this era, where friends can save your life and romantic pursuits often lead to peril.

A prime example of this dynamic is the friendship between Claire’s mother, Julia Beauchamp (Hermione Corfield), and Jamie’s father, Brian Fraser (Jamie Roy). Unlike typical soap operas where couple’s obstacles are often trivial misunderstandings or external romantic temptations, early in Blood Of My Blood, the pairing of Julia and Brian could have hinted at future romantic complications with their respective partners, Henry (Jeremy Irvine) and Ellen (Harriet Slater). However, their developing friendship actually strengthens the bonds with their partners.

Julia aids Brian in connecting with Ellen under circumstances that should keep him at a distance. She becomes a confidante for his stories about Henry, which she cannot discuss outside the secret letters she writes. She even helps Ellen recover from a scandalous encounter with Brian. In return, he helps her navigate the challenges of her pregnancy in a foreign era, including dealing with the advances of her cruel laird to protect her unborn child. Despite initial doubts about her sudden ascent in social status at Castle Leathers, Brian becomes a trusted confidant as she reveals her true backstory.

Their mutual understanding and unspoken agreement to support each other against Lord Lovat (Tony Curran) solidifies during the night Julia gives birth, a moment Brian fiercely protects against Lovat’s efforts to force a marriage. After enduring physical punishment for defending Julia, the two share a moment of quiet connection by the fireplace, discussing personal matters like birthdays and commitments, symbolizing a different kind of passion—one of mutual support and protection.

Their bond is effortless, though Julia’s relationship with Davina (Sara Vickers), Brian’s mother who suffered abuse from Lord Lovat, is initially fraught with tension. Davina is wary of Julia’s progressive ideas and jealous of Lovat’s attention, not out of desire but fear of losing his favor. Their relationship reaches a turning point on the night Julia delivers her child, when Davina, despite initial resistance, starts to see Julia’s resilience and the two women find common ground as survivors under Lovat’s oppressive rule.

Julia is lucky to find such support, unlike Henry, who faces constant threats and hostility in his environment. Brian, too, finds himself protected by his cousin Murtagh (Rory Alexander) who stands by him even when romantic entanglements threaten their bond. Similarly, Ellen gains a surprising ally in her once-estranged sister Jocasta (Sadhbh Malin) when she decides to forsake an arranged marriage for love.

All these relationships, stripped of romantic entanglements, thrive on a more primal level in a time when survival is paramount. While romantic love often seems like fate, platonic relationships in Outlander are a conscious choice, where characters like Brian and Julia make sacrifices for each other’s well-being, proving that while love captures the headlines, friendship is what truly sustains life in their world.